It's Friday and that means it's my Curly Girl Talks day! I really should come up with a catchier name, but CGTF just doesn't have the same ring as TGIF. Maybe I'll add that to the list of things I need to do.... Anyway, I have a small list of things I want to talk about during these CGT days, but I decided to bypass all those and go with a superhero theme for this week because, to be honest, even though this past week was spent in my hometown, it just wasn't...anything. I'm not sure how to explain it. It wasn't bad, but it wasn't good either. Being back here brings back too many memories and makes me heavily aware of my gag reflex when it comes to thinking about some choice things. I know I can't hop across the country and hide every time I go through a bad breakup, but in this case, I can and I will/am, so there. I'm sure deep down inside, I'm a mature grown up person who realizes how utterly ridiculous I'm being, but due to a certain series of events of which I may or may not choose to disclose in a much later post, bottom line is, I was hurt badly. It's the kind of hurt that I can't seem to shake either which isn't like me at all. All that to say, I am incredibly grateful for the people in my life currently and to the friends whom I can trust and turn to to pep me up when I need it, and tell it to me straight when I may not want it.
Today's post is going to be a series of steps on How to be Your Own Superhero. I've watched documentaries, I've read the comics, watched the cartoons, and fallen in love with them, and so, I feel confident in my information and opinions. Ladies, you don't need a man to be your superhero, you don't need cheesy quotes like this:
Or like this:
In order to validate yourself to society or yourself. Be your own superhero, you don't need anyone else to be it for you. Guys, before you promise a girl that you're going to be her superman or whatever, make damn sure you mean it and that you're going to stick with her no matter what. Superman did not dump Lois Lane for anything. Ladies, don't be Lois. Be Superman. If everyone was like Superman, damn. Wouldn't that be something? So here are some tips ands tricks on how to be your own superhero before becoming someone else's hero. (PS- We're all heroes!) (PPS- Bleeding for a whole week does NOT make girls superheroes, it makes them women not girls.)
- Don't bitch and complain a lot. This might seem pretty obvious, but I've recently become aware of how often I find myself complaining about the most insignificant things. We all have those days where every little thing gets to us, and venting is healthy. Just be sure to find something good in the little things because it's the little things that count, too.
- To go along with the little things point, do whatever you can for someone else whenever they need it, whenever you can, and whenever you are able. Spontaneity is the spice of life, but kindness is the main ingredient to achieving happiness and superhero(ine)dom.
- I heard a quote by a figure skater while watching the Sochi 2014 Olympics and it really struck a cord with me. She said she hoped to leave figure skating in a better place than she had found it. I don't remember the name of the athlete, but Sochi would be her last Olympic games. That quote got me thinking though. Whatever you choose to leave behind, or even if you don't choose to leave it, and it just goes, leave it in a better place than you found it. The strong don't emerge from having an easy life and privilege, or wealth, or race, or whatever other patriarchal things you want to attach, the strong emerge from adversity and learning from their past. Superheroes don't experience tragedy for nothing, just look at how Batman turned out. Without his parents' death, he never would have taken up the cape and mask gig and probably would've spent his life being a rich little billionaire boy.
- Find positivity in everybody, every experience, and every day. Go to bed knowing that you tried your best today to be the best you you can be and you will surely be right on your way to becoming your own superhero.
- Never underestimate the power of a small act of kindness. Whether it's holding the door open for someone, offering your seat on the bus, or simply smiling at a stranger, never underestimate the difference it can make in a person's day.
- No cape? No problem. You don't need a mask to validate being a superhero. You don't even need a gym rat's bod to be a superhero. Take care of you before you worry about anyone else. If you don't care about yourself, how are you going to care about others? It all starts with you.
And that concludes this week's issue of Curly Girl Talks! I hope it helps you guys out, and let me know if you try out any of these steps! Wow, that sounds like a 12 step program...um, yeah...okay. Thank you so much for reading and stay tuned for an upcoming beauty tutorial with Revlon's matte lip balm in Shameless (it's a super purple, scary colour for those of you who don't know. I also have swatches in my previous beauty haul). To conclude, don't count on anyone to be your own hero, be your own, and then you can be someone else's hero.
XOXO,A. Bean
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